When to Marry

What is the right time to get married? The easy answer is: When you're ready and when you want to. Obviously, this would require you to have a willing partner first.

YOu might say "aha, that's where things get complicated." But I say, if they're complicated, as in -- the relationship between the two of you is complicated, complex, up and down, or otherwise not fairly simple and straightforward, then the answer is usually pretty clear.

It's that simple. If you don't want to get married to the person you're dating, and I believe that you should know a definite 'no' if not a definite 'yes' within three months or so, you should move on.

But back to the subject of when to get married. Maybe I need to rephrase the question. How do I know that it's time to get married? And I'll repeat the answer: it's when you're in a relationship that brings you up and your partner up and never down, when you're with someone who supports and respect you and with whom you feel confident. Someone motivated and who acts on their motivations. Take love out of this equation. Love is important but it should come after the other criteria are met.