Getting There

One of my unstated yet subconsciously understood lifetime goals was always to get married and have kids. I'm probably no different in this way than a vast majority of the population. For some lucky few, a first boy/girl friend or high-school sweetheart becomes a lifelong loving relationship, however, most of us are well past that point. I didn't start to date the man I was to marry until I was well in to what you would call 'marriageable age' (you can define that by the community you identify with), and getting to the point where I could recognize someone who was right for me took a lot of learning and some major setbacks.

It didn't have to be that way. Well, in some ways it did. Because of my obstinate personality, i didn't allow anyone to give me advice about who I should or shouldn't be dating, or how to go about it. I'm someone who has to learn my own lessons and do things my own way. Call it foolish pride, but that's the way I am. And so after a lot of trial and even more error, I picked up a little bit of wisdom. I also observed people in good relationships and asked about their courtships. Slowly, I came to learn how to separate the wheat from the chaff, as it were.